We all know how tiring parenting can be. The juggling act of work and home can be a lot; kids, preparing meals, laundry, oh and let’s not forget sex!
Many people I see in my practice say they want intimacy, but they are just too tired. Being exhausted and moody makes being frisky feel like another chore.
In this article, I am going to give some tips to help you restore energy levels, support your mood and perhaps bring a little spark back to the bed sheets.
Support Your Libido, Skip These Unhealthy Food Choices
It’s really easy when you are busy to grab food that is quick and convenient. Processed foods or “fast foods” are high in sugar, salt, and unhealthy fats. These foods zap energy levels, leaving people feeling sluggish.
Simple carbohydrates, which are “white” in colour, lack essential vitamins and minerals that help a person feel good. Caffeine drinks and alcohol may provide instant gratification, but they actually drain your energy, leaving you feeling worse.
The key to supporting mood, sexual or otherwise, is to eat a clean diet made of “real food”.
This means eating fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains (whole wheat, brown rice, quinoa etc.), clean protein (fish, chicken, lean red meat, tofu), beans/legumes, nuts/seeds and healthy fats. The saying “you are what you eat” is very true, when our body is fueled by good food, we feel good!
Six Foods To Get You In The Mood
Yes, it’s true. Chocolate is an aphrodisiac. It contains tryptophan, which supports serotonin, a mood-stabilizing hormone. It also contains phenylethylamine, which is released in the brain when people fall in love, just what we need for the bedroom.
It is also rich in magnesium, a mineral known to relax the body and mind. It is this act of de-stressing that is important for getting in the mood. As you can see, you can never go wrong with chocolate.
To improve your libido, you need to think green. Green leafy vegetables, broccoli, avocados, green tea, anything green!
The key to this group of foods is that they are packed with nutrients that your body needs to fuel it with good energy. As mentioned above, when you eat good food, you feel good! You really can never get enough of green foods.
These delicious fruits are brimming with antioxidants, which boosts blood flow all of your body, including sexual organs. They contain zinc, a well-known nutrient that supports sexual energy, for both men and women. Not a fan of strawberries, try blueberries or raspberries, all berries are excellent sources of antioxidants.
This well-loved nut is an excellent source of vitamin E and B-vitamins as well as healthy protein and fat. They are also rich in selenium and zinc, 2 minerals that support reproductive health. Add these to your cereal, oatmeal, salads or eat a handful as is. Choose the unsalted unroasted variety, the raw form is the best choice.
Your morning meal can actually boost testosterone, which helps your sex drive.
Oats also contain L-arginine, an amino acid that increase blood circulation in the body, helping to treat erectile dysfunction and has been shown to improve blood flow to the clitoris. That’s reason enough to choose oatmeal over toast in the morning.
Other sources of L-Arginine are; chicken, tuna, salmon, almonds, cashews and dairy products.
This is an amazing herb loaded with B-Vitamins, calcium, magnesium, iron, selenium and zinc. It supports the adrenal glands, has the ability to increase energy levels and reduce fatigue.
It is known for enhancing libido in both men and women as well as balancing hormones. It comes in a powder form and can be added to smoothies, oatmeal bowls or mixed with a little juice.
If you are doing all the “right” things and still aren’t feeling heated you might want to get your hormones assessed. The endocrine system is a tightly regulated hormonal system consisting of the thyroid gland, adrenal gland, and reproductive organs.
A dysfunction in one system can affect another.
Let’s be real, parenting is stressful! Stress hormones are released by the adrenal glands, which in turn can affect our sex hormones. So you see, there is a relationship between stress and low libido. I often see patients with a low libido needing some adrenal support.
Parenting makes for busy lives. I hope you find these tips helpful and can find some time in your week to connect with your partner and take care of yourself.
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